I recently realized that I have over 500 friends on Facebook.
To some, this might qualify me as one of the 12 most annoying types of Facebook users… The “Friend-Padder”:
The Friend-Padder. The average Facebook user has 120 friends on the site. Schmoozers and social butterflies — you know, the ones who make lifelong pals on the subway — might reasonably have 300 or 400. But 1,000 “friends?” Unless you’re George Clooney or just won the lottery, no one has that many. That’s just showing off.
Okay, I don’t have 1,000. But, I can admit that I am near the point where some migt say I am a Friend-Padder… and I don’t like it.
Admittedly, I first joined Facebook with the intention of networking in anticipation of the release of my first book. But now, various changes in the way Facebook operates, and the explosion of users makes my news feed full of mundane details of people I have no idea who they are, why I added them, or why they requested me in the first place.
This explosion of non-friend Facebook friends is intolerable when you have so many people who could qualify as one or more of the top 12 most annoying Facebook users, such as “The Let-Me-Tell-You-Every-Detail-of-My-Day Bore” and “The Self-Promoter.” Yeah, I don’t need all that. I like Facebook for keeping in touch with people that I’d otherwise have a hard time keeping in touch with. I also do like to have the potential to network. But, I don’t need to keep in touch with people I have never heard of or never met, and I don’t need to network with every single person in politics.
Of course, I know I am partly to blame. My past desire to use Facebook as a networking tool, and the fact that I am a blogger with national readership puts me in a position where I receive 100 or so friend requests from people I have never heard of every 30-60 days. I used to accept them quite liberally, because “that’s what Facebook is for… networking.”
Yes, I still want to use it for that purpose, but for crying out loud I need to establish some guidelines that will determine whose request gets accepted or ignored. Here they are so far.
I am not going accept friend requests from people I don’t know (or haven’t met)
- just because we have 100+ mutual friends
- just because we share the same or similar political view
I will accept a friend requests from people
- I have met at least once or know
- have worked with in some fashion at one point or another
- they are candidates for political office in races that interest me.
- they are a fellow blogger I have heard of or read or worked with.
- I believe there is advantage to networking with that person.
These guidelines are subject to change, be it additions, subtractions, or revisions.